February 6, 2009

Four Big Misconceptions About Prostate Cancer Among Women Who Are Companions to Men with the Disease

1. My loved one was just diagnosed with prostate cancer, and this means he will die soon.

This is not true, especially when diagnosed early. Although we still do not have a “cure” for prostate cancer, there are more options than ever before for those who are diagnosed early, and treatments are far more effective.

2. “Impotence and incontinence (possible side effects of some prostate cancer treatments) have no cure/options.”

This is also not true. There are options available to men experiencing both incontinence and impotence that allow them to live active, dry lives that can include sexual intimacy if they choose.

3. Women who are actively involved in their loved one’s care often feel that they are somehow responsible for the patient’s overall health and the outcome of the journey with prostate cancer.

Studies show that women are more proactive about their own health, often take greater efforts to research a variety of options, and do have a direct impact on their loved one’s health; yet women often feel they’ve somehow failed if their partner continues to experience health challenges. There is a line between where caregiving ends and where the natural course of events takes over. This can be difficult for caregivers to accept.

4. “My husband clammed up when he was diagnosed. I feel like we’re never going to talk about this!”

Going deep within and becoming quiet is a common male response to very stressful times.

For more information on prostate cancer from the caregivers perspective, visit Us Too International at www.ustoo.org. Us TOO recognizes the vitally important role that spouses, partners, companions, and family members play in the overall well-being and longevity of prostate cancer patients as well as how important functioning as a team can be.

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